get off social media. find a job, whatever it is, that keeps you so occupied that you don't have time to think about this person. find a new tv show to be obsessed with (i binged marvelous mrs maisel when my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me). most importantly, don't ever lose yourself in the process of mourning a relationship <333 i hope you're doing okay :))
4d ago
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i went through a horrifically bad, messy, painful breakup late 2022/early last year and i still think about it often, but what helped me the most was
1. blocking them and COMMITTING to not checking their social medias (including stuff like Spotify). For me I focused most on the awful sinking feeling I'd get when I check, and I have slowly over the past year been able to ween off of checking it
2. truly and genuinely spend as much time with your friends or occupied as possible. when you're not with your friends, spend your time doing a hobby you love - especially a hobby that can cause some sort of material change, whatever that is
it also helps to get a haircut or make some dramatic change to your appearance/surroundings. anything fresh and new!!!!!!!!!
also do not expect to feel better immediately, or even with weeks, months, a year....it takes a very long time to get over relationship trauma and you shouldn't beat yourself up for not being over it!!
Feb 14, 2024
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tbh making posts like these is just gonna make it worse! its indulging in your subconscious desire to somehow be in thought-contact with him, to still center him somehow, to still make him relevant, to still feel affected by him. cut it out completely! you've already gone through the journaling phase and the debrief phase with your friends (and the posting about it on forums phase :p!) so then its time to do boy removal. stop talking about him, stop stalking his page, stop thinking about him and more importantly- you in relation to him. instead of 'what can i do with my time to get me to stop thinking about boy x', maybe switch it to i simply just: i need some fun little hobbies to make my time feel better. you were always real and complete...so continue always being real and complete... and maybe also pursue some new dick if that is your thing.
Mar 31, 2025
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One trick that's helped me is to focus on what I'm gaining instead of what I'm missing. Like, maybe you're catching up on that show you've been meaning to watch, or finally getting some alone time to recharge. That stuff's important too! Another thing – try to limit your social media time when you know you're feeling vulnerable to fomo. It's way too easy to fall into the comparison trap. And remember, there'll always be other chances to hang out and have fun. This isn't your last shot at a good time, I promise. Sometimes the chillest nights at home end up being the most memorable. So take a deep breath, do something you enjoy, and cut yourself some slack. Fomo's just your brain playing tricks on you. You're not really missing out - you're just doing your own thing. And have a speedy recovery!
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it's so funny and a great pride month watch!!!
speaking from my own experience though, i knew i was into women when my 13 year old self saw morticia addams in The Addams Family (1991)
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ooohh it was so hard to pick one but this is it for me. plus it's got one of my favourite sentences in all of existence (some flies are too awesome for the wall)
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