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Everything comes full circle. Sometimes it happens sooner than later, and it often happens sooner than weâd have liked.
But just because something has an end doesnât mean you failed, including relationships. Sometimes you have different needs, goals, values, or communication styles. Other times youâve grown in unexpected ways and find yourself headed in a different direction than this person that you love. No one has to be blamed or made to be the bad guy. Itâs often just⊠change.
Change can still be painful. Make space for yourself to grieve what was lost, including the future you may have invested your hopes and imagination in, but know that endings create open space for new beginnings to take flight. There are other possibilities in store, believe you me!
But just because something has an end doesnât mean you failed, including relationships. Sometimes you have different needs, goals, values, or communication styles. Other times youâve grown in unexpected ways and find yourself headed in a different direction than this person that you love. No one has to be blamed or made to be the bad guy. Itâs often just⊠change.
Change can still be painful. Make space for yourself to grieve what was lost, including the future you may have invested your hopes and imagination in, but know that endings create open space for new beginnings to take flight. There are other possibilities in store, believe you me!
Jul 16, 2025
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đ«People change people grow apart and thatâs ok. As someone with a lack of emotions permanence itâs already hard for me to recognize that people care about me unless Iâm reminded 25/8 and while Iâve worked on that and can now remind myself that people care for me; itâs somehow even harder for me to realize when that itâs ok if people are growing apart from me. Itâs inevitable. People growing apart from you is not a personal failure sometimes itâs just HAPPENS. Schedules change, distance change, levels of concern change, and thatâs ok.
I remember shortly after highschool ended a girl tried to poke fun at me for the fact that i âchangeâ friends often (I have several 6+ year friendships but thatâs besides the point LOL) but the truth is that Iâve always known when to let friends go and do their own thing. All of that is to say that life moves forward your circles change and youâre wasting time that you could be using to build stronger/new connections on things that have passed their course.
I remember shortly after highschool ended a girl tried to poke fun at me for the fact that i âchangeâ friends often (I have several 6+ year friendships but thatâs besides the point LOL) but the truth is that Iâve always known when to let friends go and do their own thing. All of that is to say that life moves forward your circles change and youâre wasting time that you could be using to build stronger/new connections on things that have passed their course.
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đŹThe dial tone after speaking to someone you loved for the final time over the phone.
Crying until you canât breathe.
Your body becoming numb and your mind spinning as you try and process as you end things with your partner.
Amicable breakups when you and your former partner still loved each other during said breakup, and then watching them move on from a distance, while you still reminisce on what could have been every now and thenâeven when you, yourself, have moved on.
Feeling lost.
Firm believer that breakups build you as a person. I am not the person I was when I was in my first committed relationship. I built myself up, I created boundaries, and I no longer live for anyone else but myself
Crying until you canât breathe.
Your body becoming numb and your mind spinning as you try and process as you end things with your partner.
Amicable breakups when you and your former partner still loved each other during said breakup, and then watching them move on from a distance, while you still reminisce on what could have been every now and thenâeven when you, yourself, have moved on.
Feeling lost.
Firm believer that breakups build you as a person. I am not the person I was when I was in my first committed relationship. I built myself up, I created boundaries, and I no longer live for anyone else but myself
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â€ïžsometimes you gotta remind yourself why you broke up â even if they broke up with you or it wasnât mutual etc etc, theres always good reasons even if itâs just âthey dumped meâ like okay yes and do you want to be with someone who would dump you no (even if maybe it doesnât feel like that rn). Reminding yourself of the things that make you incompatible helps you 1) process and move forward 2) know what to look for in your next relationship eventually! What were the needs that you always sort of wished theyâd met? Interests you wish theyâd shared? at some point it will be good to consider all of the good things that were there so you can look for those in the Future but now isnât that time âŠ
Also: -Read a long and easy book literally give your brain a break from your thoughts (this always helps me reset) -spend time with your friends and reconnect with old ones or people you just sort of lost track of because you were in a relationship and didnât have the social time. Build up other sources of love!
Also: -Read a long and easy book literally give your brain a break from your thoughts (this always helps me reset) -spend time with your friends and reconnect with old ones or people you just sort of lost track of because you were in a relationship and didnât have the social time. Build up other sources of love!
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đŠIâm not a parent and do not plan to be. Kids can wear me out fast with their high energy and noise level; it leaves me very over-stimulated. But itâs pretty extreme when people say they âhate kidsâ and I often feel itâs a reflection of their childhood and beliefs around how kids âshould be.â That they were expected to be quiet, obedient, and out of the way by their parents when they were little.
Itâs fucking hard to be a kid. Youâre dealing with a rapidly-changing body and underdeveloped brain, managed by flawed adults who are enforcing boundaries that you do not understand. Itâs confusing and hard to manage your feelings and honestly just a lot.
People are impatient with kids when theyâre brand new to the world and figuring it all out, and this is a time kids need a friend the most. Children can also be teachers to adults with how they are less habituated to the world. They teach us how to be free and open-hearted and silly and imaginative.
A good practice is to be kinder and gentler with kids. If that feels difficult, start with gentleness toward your inner child. Maybe thatâs the child in your life that needs your attention and kindness most.
Itâs fucking hard to be a kid. Youâre dealing with a rapidly-changing body and underdeveloped brain, managed by flawed adults who are enforcing boundaries that you do not understand. Itâs confusing and hard to manage your feelings and honestly just a lot.
People are impatient with kids when theyâre brand new to the world and figuring it all out, and this is a time kids need a friend the most. Children can also be teachers to adults with how they are less habituated to the world. They teach us how to be free and open-hearted and silly and imaginative.
A good practice is to be kinder and gentler with kids. If that feels difficult, start with gentleness toward your inner child. Maybe thatâs the child in your life that needs your attention and kindness most.
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I meant to post this yesterday. Absolutely beautiful morning for walk.
This morning is also beautiful but in a spring rain kind of way.
This morning is also beautiful but in a spring rain kind of way.
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