it's impossible to take actionable advice from a Don't statement. Howeverrrr choosing to see it as a whole bunch of implied Do statements has worked for me. If we Do dance hard/wild/sexy on the dance floor, Do post pictures smiling WIDE with the homies, Do cook impressive new recipes, Do publicize our progress on our hobbies, Do host fun parties, I think people can sense when you're becoming cooler and sexier. And can smell the incoming competition within the other observers/want to act before them...
TLDR who wants to get with the person in the party trying desperately to make eye contact with everyone when they could get with the host?
Jun 26, 2024
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I totally get the temptation to ask insightful and thought-provoking questions but remember sometimes you need to keep it simple. If it's a loud party with lots of people, not everyone is going to want to have a super deep conversation with someone they just met. Small talk is annoying and tedious but sometimes it's a much-needed entry point. Meet some cool people, get their contact info, and then message them later with some big questions.
Jul 20, 2024
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Usually I start out by just chatting and connecting. Smiling a lot, making eyecontact the usual jazz. Then once they know that I have a general liking for them, I put them down a little about something silly and challenge them to prove themselves. Works most of the time. Straight men love to prove themselves, I love to laugh at them while they try. I climb, so very often its sth about challenging them to do a certain incredibly hard climb and when they ultimately fail making a big fuzz about how dissappointed you are in them and how you had such high hopes that they failed to meet. If they succeed, you say sth about how you always believed in them but how you could also easily do so (and you flex your bicep or sth). IMPORTANT HERE IS THAT IT IS CLEAR THAT YOU ARE JOKING THE WHOLE TIME AND TO SNEAKILY GIVE COMPLIMENTS IN BETWEEN. We aren't trying to break people's confidence. We are just doing an ironic dick measuring competition.
Dec 5, 2024
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I am @ looking-thru-office-window age... Used to cringe & see it as a very boring adult tendency to stare at nothing, but I totally get it now... There is so much to see out there. Brain is off.
Jun 25, 2024
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I was on my little stare-at-the-moon walk, and then I thought I saw a big roach, so I went ahh! and yeeted my unused joint so far into the bushes at dark that even with my phone flashlight on, I could not find that motherfucker, only more bugs. Then I gave up and ran home because I realized my walk was going on too long and I had left the front door unlocked. I don't even need weed to be paranoid.
Jun 21, 2024
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